In my senior year of high school, I took a phsycology class. In this class we read "the 5 love languages" by Gary Chapman. This book tells you firstly what the love languages are, how to identify your primary love language/s, and how to speak other peoples love language/s. This book helps you to enhance your relationships, I would highly recomend you read it. The goal is to be fluent in all 5 languages here is my summary:

 

All of us want to be known and loved, this is universal. However, how we want to be loved is unique to each of us. There are only 5 fundemental love languages 5 ways to express love emotionally. These are: 

 1. Words of Affirmation (WOA)

n.1 Truthful words 2. Spoken or written 3. From one person to another 4. To uplift to encourage 5. To make the recipient feel loved

Dialects of WOA 

Words of appreciation

Words of encouragement

Words of praise 

Words of kindness

 

 2. Quality time (QT)

Adj + n. 1. Intentional 2. Deliberate time 3. Spent with a person 4.To make the individual feel loved

Dialects of QT

Quality activities

Quality conversations 

Quality listeners 

-the goal of quality listening is understanding 

 

 3. Gifts 

n. 1. More than a material item 2. A visual symbol of love 3. Representing the giver 4. The value of an item isnt in its price tag but in its meaning to the person 

A gift is a visual symbol of love

 

 4. Service 

n. 1. Doing something kind 2. Intentional 3. Unexpected 4. That helps someone else

True service involves 

Your hands (actually doing something 

Your heart (not bartering, manipulation, or showing off, the motivation should be love)

Your brain (meanigful act)

 

 5. Physical Touch

Adj + n. 1. Intentional 2. Meaningful 3. Human contact 4. To make people feel loved

If someones primary love languge is touch, then your touch speaks more loudly than your words. 

 

 

Each of us has a primary love language a way of recovery devotion and affection that registers deep inside and makes us feel truly, personally loved. Some people are fluent in multiple languages.

We tend to speak our own love language. We love how we want to be loved. If you are a hugger then your love language is probaly physical touch. If you love to give compliments then your love language is probably words of affirmation.

 

Learning to speak love and appreciation in a language the other person can receive is the key to enhancing all human relationahips. We must be observative in our relationships with our friends, parents, siblings, significant others..etc. Does this person always give gifts? Then their love language is probably gifts. We must make an effort to give them gifts because this is the way they feel deeply loved.

Love tank 

n. 1. Personal resevoir 2. Of feeling adored, appreciated, known 3. Which empties when feeling unloved 4. Which fills when feeling loved.

Sorround yourself with people who fill your love tank ♥️